There’s a tremendous amount of loneliness in the lives of women today.

I went to dinner with the folks this evening. Across from us was a couple, probably in their late 30′s. The husband was reading the paper, the wife was fiddling with her enchiladas.

Literally ten words were exchanged between the two of them.

You could see it in her eyes. She was married, she lived with the man, yet she was desperately lonely. Her eyes were screaming for him to say something nice to her, to let her know that he cared about her, that he thought she looked beautiful. But nothing.

We’ve all heard the statistics about divorce rates. Even in the “perfect Christian” marriages, the rate hovers around 40%.

Men cringe at the thought that their girlfriend or wife would ever cheat on them. But we rarely take the time to think about the damage we do to these women. We think of ourselves as gods among men. We go on a constant search for money, fame, power. We buy more toys. We work more. We become tremendously successful in everyone’s eyes.

All the while, our women are dying inside. We men have fallen for the money trap. We work at everything but our relationships. We engage in sins of neglect. Our women feel lonely and isolated.

I’m sure when that man in the restaurant first met that woman, he thought she was the most beautiful creature to have ever graced his life. When they got married, he probably told her to what extraordinary lengths he would have gone to make her deliriously happy. He would have been willing to die for her. And now? He makes her feel isolated and alone. Each night she forces herself to fight back the tears, to swallow the bitterness inside.

When your woman cheats on you, it’s your fault. The guys who are desperately afraid of commitment are better than the guys who are in relationships but don’t give their women what they need. Your woman doesn’t want the money and the fame. She wants you.

So put down to f*%$ing paper and tell her she’s beautiful.